This is a question asked by many guys and sometimes some girls too. “How to escape the friend zone?” The short answer is: you need to get her/him to see you in a different way, in a sexy and/or romantic way. But how do you do that? One of the best ways to accomplish this is to have the friend you’re interested in see you through the eyes of another who finds you attractive, romantic and/or who is interested in you.
Here is my personal experience that is a great example. I had female co-worker who had a guy-friend for many years, since they were in college. They did everything together and she would mention him often. BUT she always said that they were “just friends.” One day he calls her at work, which he does often, and I picked up the phone, since we didn’t have an official receptionist for our office. Being a woman myself, I noticed that he had a great voice, very deep, manly, and sexy. Few men have that voice. I meet him in person later and he was just average looking, very quiet, nothing impressive. I wasn’t attracted to him but I have to admit that he had a great voice. I told my friend that. She was surprised. She never noticed that about her longtime friend. Another female co-worker also agreed with me, that he had a great voice.
For a while, nothing seemed to have changed. She would let me pick up her calls so that I could hear his voice. That was nice but we usually didn’t have much to talk about. About 1-2 months later, I notice them acting suspiciously when I went to pick something up from her house. Then I left the company around that time. Then 3 months after that I heard they were dating. One year later, they got married.
Now, this method will NOT always work. A vast majority of guys/girls never escape the Friend Zone. It is better not to let yourself fall into the Friend Zone in the first place. From the beginning, try to get the person you’re interested to see you as attractive and/or romantic first. You can always be “just friends” later. Give her some compliments. “You have a beautiful smile” or “beautiful hair.” “That dress really looks nice on you.” Hold her gaze for just a few seconds longer. Open the door for her. Show her some extra attention and let her know that you’re interested in her. Ask her for her number. Don’t leave it to chance.
Here’s another personal experience of mine. I recently made a new gal-friend and she invited me to “game night” at her house. It was a group of her friends and acquaintances. I met one guy there who I thought was kind of cute. I sat down near him and started chatting with him. We talked for about 30 minutes, both alone and with other people. There seemed to be some connection. Then the games started and everyone joined the big table to play together. After the games, I was saying my good-byes. He said, “We should stay in touch.” I said, “Okay, that would be nice.” I left the door wide open for him, but he didn’t ask for my number. Instead he told me to Facebook him and spelled out his long name for me. Really?
First, asking me, a girl you just meet, to be Facebook friends is a huge RED FLAG. I wouldn’t invite strangers into my house, why would I invite a guy I just meet to see all my photos and conversations, and meet all my friends and family. NO. Second, he’s given me work to do to reach out to him? He’s not taking charge as a man to ask for my number and call me. Or maybe he’s just not that interested in me. In any case, he must have picked the safest route he could think of. And he fell into my Friend Zone.
Of course, I never friended him on Facebook. About a week later he did reached out to my gal-friend who hosted the game night to ask for my email. We did sent a few messages back and forth but it had already fizzled out. Neither of us put in enough incentive to see each other again.
In conclusion, when you first meet someone and you like them, be sure to flirt with them, pay them some attention, and let them know that you’re interested in them. Make sure to present yourself as boyfriend or girlfriend material, so that they will consider you in a romantic sense first. And don’t give them the option of being “just friends” … that can always come later.
Good luck!
by Dao NguyenHowAboutADate.com Social Instigator
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